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The Sense of Possibility

Nikky

We can’t achieve anything that we can’t imagine ourselves doing. It sounds obvious, but it’s easy to forget how potent this truism is when it comes to our children. How our children think about themselves, how they imagine they are is the most powerful influence on how they think about their own future.

There are many potential obstacles for our children to overcome in order to develop positive self-image in a robust fashion. One to look out for is a failure to separate ‘bad’ behaviour from a fault in the child. That is to say, we need to separate actions from personality. It’s important that we raise our children to understand that if they do something we deem to be bad, it doesn’t make them a bad person. Good people can, on occasion, do bad things. When we are guiding the behaviour of our children, we want them to realise that one mistake doesn’t prevent them from progressing positively, to know that an error doesn’t necessarily close off that path or block their sense of possibility.

In fact, we currently live at a time when it’s more possible than ever to acknowledge the capabilities of youngsters. As we age, it becomes increasingly difficult (for me anyway!) to keep up with technological advances in our everyday lives. What adult hasn’t asked a child to sort out some digital conundrum for them?

We like to think that wisdom accumulates with age in a steady, measured way, that it is the job of those of us who are older to feed titbits of our hard earned wisdom to the youngsters, and that they should greedily gobble them up.

This is not always the way it is, and not just when it comes to technology. Consider the ecological question, or feminism, racism and various other political platforms that are increasingly occupied by the younger generations, as much and even more than the older generations. Personally I think this is something to be proud of, and it is faith in our children that gives me the greatest sense of optimism for the future.

So let’s nurture, nurture, nurture that sense - encourage our children wherever they want to go in lives that are opening out in front of them like a wide horizon. When they take to the stage, don’t even show them the wings. The wings they will grow will lift them to heights we can only dream might be possible.

Sadface

Nikky

There’s a part of my Storytelling show where I pretend to fall asleep on the floor in the front of the children. Often, this totally freaks my core audience of 4-8 year olds, despite my comedy snoring.

Depending on age, group, mood etc., they either shout and scream at me to wake up (in a way that starts off playfully but if I push the duration, veers into slight desperation), shyly approach and prod me, or they fall silent and look to their adults to sort out this unexpected turn of events. There is always the laughter of relief when I wake up.

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When It All Goes Right!

Nikky

Despite having spent many years sharing my thoughts and opinions on successful communications with children, it alway gives me a huge thrill to hear about a positive outcome.

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Teach EYFS Article - Powerlessness

Nikky

Here is another in my series of articles based on conversations with children, first published in Teach Early Years magazine. In each piece, I focus on one prominent theme. For this one, it’s POWERLESSNESS, which seems especially apt at the moment. My thanks to editor Jacob Stow for allowing reproduction, and if you want to know more, details of this and their other magazines and resources are available at: https://www.teachwire.net

  • Is there anything you don’t like about being a child?
  • You have no control because you’re not in charge.             (L - male)


I interviewed this little boy with his mother and I’m sure you are well able to imagine her facial expression on hearing his reply. There was good humour in her silently letting me know that it didn’t always feel that way to her.

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Baby FOMO

Nikky

When children are coming to terms with being separate entities from their parents, it can trigger some challenging behaviour.

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